How to Tame a Pregnant Woman

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As far back as I can remember I have dreamt about having children. More specifically, I dreamed of being pregnant. While other little girls fantasized about their wedding dress and their prince charming, I waddled around the house with a pillow in my shirt saying, "My water broke, call 911!" There was something so charming to me about a pregnant woman. Something so peaceful and maternal, I always wanted to touch their bellies and pretend the baby kicked back in response to my hand. I could not wait to have the experience all for myself.

How to Tame a Pregnant Woman

I was 22 when my husband and I found out we were expecting our first baby. We had only been married for 5 months, but knew from the start that we didn't want to wait long before starting our family. I had always wanted to be a young mom. When I saw that plus sign on the pregnancy test everything in me leapt for joy. Finally, I would have a pregnancy of my own; a belly of my own; a baby of my own. My first pregnancy was a breeze. Mild morning sickness was all I really had to complain about. I loved my huge belly, I loved the clothes, the preparation, even loved my prenatal visits to the doctor. Excitement was in the air. I was scheduled to be induced at 5 am on July 25, 2008. Around 2 am that morning the labor pains started on their own; this was it. 19 hours later, my husband and I, along with a whole slew of friends and relatives crowded outside the labor and delivery room, welcomed Staley Shane Weatherford into the world. He was absolute perfection, and I couldn't wait to get started on baby #2.

When the first pregnancy went so smoothly, it was impossible to think of the second being any different. Sure, I would get bigger sooner, I would have the added work of caring for an infant while growing an infant, but women had done it for hundreds of years, and I was rearing to go! So it came as no surprise when 3 months after Staley was born we had another positive pregnancy test. All the same emotions flooded over me when I found out I was pregnant again. I couldn't wait to wear my maternity clothes again, I couldn't wait to find out if it would be another boy or a girl, and cute baby names consumed my every waking thought. It wasn't long before my naivety came face to face with my reality.

First, every pregnancy is different. Not tiny insignificant differences either. In my case, with each pregnancy the symptoms intensified. Mild morning sickness became unbearable nausea and daily vomiting. An annoying headache was now the equivalent of a tiny little being hammering away inside my skull. Blood pressure got higher, my face and feet got fatter, and my hormones got further and further away from normal.

It was somewhere in the 3rd trimester of my second pregnancy that I realized exactly what it was that I had become; insane. In truth, there is very little difference between a pregnant woman and a wild animal. Both creatures will love you as long as you have food in your hand, and both will consider your hand food when it's all that's left extended. Both have an excellent sense of smell and will hunt down and find even the tiniest morsel of chocolate within a 5 mile radius. And perhaps the most significant similarity for this discussion, both strike fear in the hearts of their mates through the entirety of their pregnancies.

At this point in my life I feel that my understanding of pregnancy and what it does to a woman, physically and emotionally, is as sharp as it will ever be. However, I cannot imagine what the experience is really like for the man involved. I cannot fathom riding the roller coaster of hormones, cravings, and anxiety with the woman you love but think should be institutionalized. And so, I am writing this to all of our patient, loving, and absolutely terrified fathers. I have compiled 8 steps to taming a pregnant woman. (Disclaimer: this only applies to pregnant females of the human variety).

Step 1: Be considerate.
Pregnancy takes quite a toll on a woman's body. If you are one of those men who think this is exaggerated, I recommend swallowing a watermelon whole and letting it pass through your system. Let me know how that turns out for you! It takes 9 months for the baby to develop and be ready to greet the world, but also for the momma to be ready. Most mornings she will wake up feeling like she didn't sleep at all. She'll feel like she's constantly whining about how horrible she feels, when really her complaints don't even scratch the surface of how bad it is. She feels crazy and she feels overwhelmed, and she needs to know that you understand. Sure you'll never be able to empathize, but you don't take lightly the sacrifices she's making for your family. It doesn't go without saying; she needs to hear it.

Step 2: Keep her fed.
Perhaps the most notorious symptom of pregnancy is the unceasing need for food. Sometimes normal human food, and sometimes crazy unexplainable cravings. I cannot describe to you how strong these cravings are. The triggers are many and they are often not preventable. A fast food commercial can send her into a frenzy. A memory of eating candy at Halloween as a child can literally make her salivate in anticipation. When she wants it, you should try your best to deliver it! If gone unsatisfied that craving will fester, eventually leading to a binge episode. Take it from me, it's best to catch it before it is allowed to grow and mature into something worse than the need for a Snickers bar.

Step 3: Don't be afraid to intervene.
Oh the things people say to pregnant women! It never ceases to amaze me how negative strangers can be. When I was noticeably pregnant with my second son and would be shopping at Wal-Mart with my first son in the basket, people would constantly stop me just so that they could tell me, "You're going to have your hands full!" With a shopping cart full of Huggies and a body full of raging hormones, it was so difficult to be polite. My usual response was, "Better full than empty", although I was thinking, "Really? I hadn't thought of that, maybe I should rethink this!" Another favorite is, "Don't you know what causes that?" How I would have loved to say, "Yep, and we must be doing it right to be this productive!" I was always thankful when my husband would jump in and respond so that I didn't have to be tacky. We don't enjoy being rude or short with people, so an intervention by you will always be appreciated, if not right away, eventually.

Step 4: Don't let her scare you off.
In every marriage, there are ups and there are downs. You may find that during pregnancy your downs are suddenly lower than you think you can climb out of. One of the most frustrating things about being pregnant is how out of control your emotions become. Any disagreement with my husband would open up the floodgates. I couldn't explain what was wrong, because I didn't know. The simplest things made me cry uncontrollably. If I wasn't wallowing in tears and sorrow, I was the biggest, scariest defensive tackle you've ever encountered. "What's wrong," would send me into defense mode and I would verbally attack my unsuspecting husband. It would be completely understandable for you, as the husband, to throw your arms up in defeat rather than pursue a disagreement. Don't let her scare you off. She wants to work it out, she's just out of control. Be persistent, be patient, and reassure her that you love her regardless of your dispute. Sometimes having her write what she's feeling is a better method of communicating. When we can't speak because we're slinging snot everywhere, pen and paper are a better medium for expressing our thoughts.

Step 5: Pamper, Pamper, Pamper.
Never underestimate the power of lotions and massages. A pregnant woman is never without an aching muscle, and being pampered when you're in such a frustrating condition is always a welcomed gesture. Don't ask her, "Can I give you a foot rub," just get some lotion and rub those smelly, achy feet. Run her a bath, let her sleep late in the morning when you know she really needs it, or bring her flowers for absolutely no reason other than that you love her and appreciate her. Make her feel like a princess.

Step 6: Show your excitement!
I realize that decorating a nursery and registering for gifts for your baby shower aren't high up on a man's to-do list, but they are on hers. While you're thinking, "Do we really need a special trash can to dispose of diapers in", your pregnant wife is researching and critiquing the dozens of different styles of diaper pales thinking, "I want nothing but the best for my baby's poop!" Even when you don't see the point, let her see that you're excited. Make an effort to do the things that aren't that big of a deal to you. Help her pick out the baby bedding, go with her to birthing classes, and show her that this is just as significant to you as it is to her. You will fall in love with one another all over again as you start to see each not only as spouse, but as the mother/father of your baby, and that's pretty exciting!

Step 7: Never compare her to a wild animal.
At the forefront of my mind there is always the lingering fear that I am slipping further and further away from sanity. More often than not I feel like this thought is in the same spot in my husband's mind. I am eternally thankful that it has never made its way to his lips. Hormone fluctuations seriously make you feel crazed, which is a very depressing thought for a pregnant woman. Looking yourself in the mirror and realizing that the normal girl that used to live here is gone, and in her place is a demonic alter ego, is a pretty scary thought. As hard as it might be to keep the, "Are you insane," comments to yourself, it could very well save your life, and your marriage. Yes, she is a little insane, but it is only temporary. At some point over the next 18 years the loving, level-headed woman you fell madly in love with will return, and I don't think it's too much to ask for you to suck it up until then.

Step 8: Never give up.
This is one of the most difficult phases your marriage will ever go through. A pregnant woman feels like she is literally being pulled in a million different directions. How can she be a mother to her existing children, as well as a wife to her husband, while she feels like everything she has is being used up by the tiny little life growing in her belly. She cannot give 100% to everything, so now more than ever it is your job to pick up the slack and help her out. Keep in mind that it's only temporary, and that you're not alone. She's struggling through it as well, and as long as you are both committed to each other you will live to see the end result. Hang in there and be encouraged; men having been doing this for hundreds of years.

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The Winged Spirit Chapter 1

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Paris May was not an ordinary teenage girl. She was the envy of most, if not every, girl in her school. At the age of sixteen, she's a model for her mother's thriving clothing industry. She wasn't skinny like the other models who reminded her of starving children all over the world, but instead, she was slim, a little less than average weight. She wasn't tall like the others either who were either five feet ten inches or six feet tall. She stood a sturdy five foot four, which isn't tall at all for a model. In fact, she was one of the shortest girls out of all the juniors and seniors at Adana High School. But her height and weight have little to do with her modelling career.

The Winged Spirit Chapter 1

Usually, when someone looked at her, they appreciated her physical form thoroughly, from head to toe. She had silky dark brown hair that waved on its own and highlighted itself during the summer, and her bangs swept to the right over the flawless skin of her forehead. It was lightly layered and the longest part was on her back, which reaches the small of her back. Her nose was petite and straight. She had soft lips that were full. The upper lip slightly indented the lower one and gave her a look of unintentional sensuality. Her eyes were large, almond-shaped and heavily lashed. They were the deepest of violets superior to the iris and they got lighter towards the pupil. They were also flecked with silver. Paris had soft, pampered skin the color of white gold, and it always glowed, no matter what time of year it was. Everybody knew that the seasons could do nothing to interfere with it, because she was born with that coloring. Even if she was a little slim, it did nothing to draw the attention away from her curves. One thing was for sure, she was gifted in that department.

Her appearance was only half of who she really was. No, it was less than half, because she never truly paid attention to her physical being much. It was always her mother who took care of that. Paris was the president of a charity fundraiser that runs all year long at her school. She raised almost ten thousand dollars annually and all but fifteen percent of it went to the poor. The rest went to the school for books and repairs. She wasn't your usual shallow drama queen. If she ever saw that someone needed help, she would rush to it, even if it was beyond her experience, and do as much as possible for them. She was caring. That aspect of her had all the girls liking her as well, but their attitudes towards her were laced with feminine rivalry. For that reason, she had no close friends. She never let it get to her. She didn't mind, because her mother was her best friend, and if she had her, she didn't need anybody else. Normally, she's a quiet kind of girl. But when you got her started about something she truly believed in and felt strongly about, she oozed charisma from every pore of her body.

Just by looking at her, most people just assumed that she was the most popular girl in school. This is true. They assumed that she was also a model student and got straight A's. This is also true. They assumed that she was possibly the only human girl with a perfect life. This is false. She was one of the three Winged Spirits alive with a perfect life. But they didn't know that. She didn't know that. At least, she wouldn't know until it was her birthday, and when she found out, they way she reacted would determine whether she would live, or die...

At that moment though, she was not thinking about life or death. She was thinking about her chipped nail.

"Oh, Paris. Look at what you've done!" Her mother, Bethany May, a short, plump woman with an impish look in her brown eyes grabbed her hand and observed the nails on Paris' fingers with dismay. "Oh, I told you to be just a little more careful! It'll take forever to get another appointment at that beauty salon and I just don't have the time." A frown creased her arched brows and she clicked her tongue.

"Mom, I can pay for another one, don't worry about it." Even considering the circumstances, Paris felt a smile tugging at the corner of her lips. Bethany May would not worry if she heard that the apocalypse was tomorrow on the radio but a hair out of place is enough to drive her insane. At the age of forty-two, she was more successful that most women or men her age and older. Because of her job, she always took care of her appearance, which meant that she took care of Paris' appearance as well. Bethany had short, red, curly hair that barely touched her shoulders in comparison to Paris' long waves. Because of that hair, she could spot her mother a mile away. Well, almost. Her mother wore designer clothing and shoes every chance she got, which is every day, and booked appointments at the salon, spa and cosmetics specialists every month or so. She was a woman of high maintenance but she was as soft as a stuffed animal on the inside. Nobody but Paris got to see that side of her. Everyone else, her friends, Bethany's employees, Paris' teachers, etc only got to see the cool, professional side of her.

They were both sitting in Paris' couch. Her room was different. She liked it for many reasons but one of the main reasons is because it reminded her of herself. The room itself was a large rectangle and had a high ceiling. There was a bed with a canopy and millions of pillows stacked on the plush sheets of all different sizes and shapes. There was a desk with a glossy laptop on top. Beside the desk, there was a chair on four wheels. There was her closet with its double doors that slid open and revealed at least hundreds of hangars all occupied with clothing cramped together. Then there was the couch that they were sitting on, a little faded out on the seats from good use. Everything about her room was pink. All of it was the same shade too. The one thing that wasn't was the floor which was made of a glossy wood panelling.
Her mother looked up and the frown disappeared. She abruptly removed her hand from Paris' and gave a tinkling of laughter. "Sweetheart, money's not the issue here." Then her smile became a look of concern.

"Did you forget that the shoot is tomorrow?"

Paris felt her eyes widen involuntarily. "Oh, my goodness! I completely forgot! How stupid of me!" She smacked the palm of her hand on her forehead. Tomorrow was the day her mother's co-workers were supposed to doll her up in tons of accessories and take photos for the season's newest designs. Even though the shots are supposed to be taken from far, which meant they were taking shots of her whole body, a single chipped nail could cause the critics and judges to lessen the ratings of the company in a millisecond. She couldn't see that happen for her own stupid mistake.

She stared at the five nails on her right hand. She had gotten a French manicure and French pedicure at the salon yesterday. All the nails were long. All of them but the one on her ring finger which had a chip right in the middle. She frowned at it and let out a flustered breath.

Her mother patted her arm and smiled a smile that brought out the crinkled in the corners of her eyes. "You know what? I think I can file them out for you. Don't you worry, baby girl." Paris raised an eyebrow.

"Mom?"

"Yes?"

"I wasn't the first one to flip out when I chipped a nail. It was you." She shot her a smug smile.
Her mother raised both her eyebrows. "Yes, well, at least..." Paris could tell she was browsing her mind for a cute comeback. "Never mind." They both burst out laughing. When the laughter died down, Bethany looked down at her watch.

"Shouldn't you be getting for school?"

"Mooooooooom...." Paris started. "I don't feel like getting out of my pyjamas."

"Well, you have to go to school. Come on, get up." Even as she was saying it, Bethany stood from the couch and held out a hand to her daughter.

"I don't even want to go, mom. Oh, c'mon. Don't make me go." Paris pouted and she hoped it looked sincere enough.

Bethany tried glaring at her daughter but her twitching mouth gave away the smile she was trying to hold back. "No, you most definitely cannot stay at home today. You have a test in biology and I don't want you to miss it." She drew back her hand walked to Paris' closet, pulled open the door and started rummaging through the clothing.

"But mom, I hate my bio teacher! To add on to that, he's a pervert! All the girls think so." Even she could hear the desperation creeping into her voice.

"Paris, hate is a strong word." She pulled out a pair of grey, Bermuda shorts and placed it on the arm of the couch.

"Okay, fine then. I strongly dislike him." Without realizing it, Paris got up, took off her pyjama bottoms and slipped on the shorts.
As if her mother hadn't heard her, she continued speaking. "And he's a married man, angel. He's hardly in the position to be perverted. He has three children whom he loves!" She pulled out a cream-colored v-neck tee and handed it to Paris.

As she was pulling the top over her head, she muttered under her breath, "Maybe a little too much."

"I heard that." Bethany made her way towards Paris holding a golden, chain-linked belt in her left hand. While she tucked the shirt into the shorts, she placed the belt around the slots. When she closed it, she took a step back and stood there, assessing Paris. "I think the grey Chanel flats would go really well with that, don't you?" She looked at Paris' feet. "Or maybe, just a pair of those flip-flops I bought for you from Vegas."

"Yeah, okay, great mom. I still don't want to go to school." She looked at her mother pleadingly. She pouted her lips for maximum effect.

Bethany's face softened for the smallest second but she snapped out of it almost right away. "Oh, you... Don't you dare think that you can fool me. Now, come on. I'll drop you off before going to work. I'll give you some money for lunch but I'll get something for breakfast while you get your books. Hurry! We don't want to be tardy." With that, Bethany flitted down the stairs. Paris sighed with a smile on her face and gathered her books together into her alligator skin side tote.

She walked down the circular staircase and entered the large kitchen. Observing her surroundings, she searched for her mother. Most of the kitchen's perimeter was covered with counters which were layered with glass. There was a medium-sized island in the middle which was topped with coral blue tiles. Not one dish was out of place and the floors were sparkling thanks to Mr. Clean. Bethany May ran a tight ship. Her mother wasn't in the kitchen. Paris frowned but when to the entrance. She slipped her feet into a pair of silver flip flops and opened the door. As soon as she put her foot through the threshold, a golden Mercedes honked from the driveway. The passenger's side window opened and Bethany called out to Paris from inside. "Can you walk any slower?"

Paris jogged to the car, her feet slapping the pavement every step of the way. "Sorry, I was looking for you in the kitchen." She opened the door and climbed in, closing the door behind her with a thud. Her mom put the car in gear and pulled out of the drive, then zoomed down the street, barely making a yellow light. "Mom! Slow down!"

"Why do you want me to slow down? This is already too slow if we want to get you to school on time." Paris could see her mother's eyes on the road ahead of her and knew that she was serious.
"We don't want to get me to school on time. You want to get me to school on time." Paris pressed the button on the door and the window closed.

"Here you go." Without looking, Bethany reached into the compartment in front of Paris and pulled out two granola bars and placed them on Paris' legs. "Eat this."

"Mother, are you trying to kill me?"

"What makes you say that?" Her hand was back on the steering wheel and she swerved right.

"Other than your driving, you're giving me these to eat?" Paris picked one up as if it was a dead rodent instead of a cereal bar.

Bethany caught the grimace on her daughter's face and chuckled to herself. "I put them in here when I came into the car just now. Don't worry, they're not expired."

Paris narrowed her eyes. "Then why didn't you put them on the seat?"

"And risk you sitting on them? Sweetheart, I don't think you'd appreciate a butt-squished bar. Now eat before I throw them out the window."

Shaking her head slightly, Paris opened the pink packaging. It was the type of bar with a thick layer of yogurt stuck to the bottom of bran flakes. Sighing for the second time, she bit into it, while her mother made their way to Adana High School.

Paris was only in her first period class and she already felt like putting her head on the wide desk and taking a nap. Mr. Pierce might have a PhD in English Language Arts, but he certainly has no education in entertainment. She didn't expect all her teachers to be fun, and friendly like her art teacher, Ms. Britta, but the least she expected is for the teacher to not speak in a monotone voice, which is exactly what Mr. Pierce does every day.

Paris glanced around the purple painted room. She sat exactly in the center of all the desks. Most desks had two students sitting at them, but Paris sat alone. The girl who used to sit beside her moved out of town, and since everyone had to sit in alphabetical order, she would stay alone for the rest of the year, not that she minded. She liked the feeling of knowing no one was looking at her paper when she wrote something. She wasn't exactly talented in that area of school. She did admire poetry though.

There was a tall, well-muscled boy sitting diagonally from her. He had sandy brown hair, bronzed skin and eyes the color of the sea. His name was Kevin, and he was one of the guys who supposedly had a crush on her. He turned his head in her direction and when he caught her eyes, he smiled and winked while mouthing, "Hey". She smiled back at him, but turned to face the teacher. Kevin was gorgeous, and she knew at least three girls who were dying to just talk to him. While Paris may admire his physical form and beauty, she had no intention of getting involved. She didn't trust men when it came to that. She would never trust them after what her mother had told her about her father. Her real father. Bethany had had many boyfriends, but none of them had lasted as long as Paris' biological father...

While Paris wrote an essay in class about Shakespeare's "A Midsummer Night's Dream", Bethany drove herself back home. She had told Paris that she had to go to work, but she had lied. She'd taken a day off so she could start re-assorting the house. After all, Paris was going to turn seventeen in a few weeks, and she didn't have much time left. Thinking about her daughter, Bethany's eyes swam in tears. Oh, my poor, poor baby girl. My girl, I'm so sorry... Bethany knew it was no use crying, because her tears couldn't save Paris' fate. It couldn't change the fact that Paris was going to have to take responsibilities that no one but two other people in the whole world would have to take.

She thought about how she had told Paris about how her father had turned away from them and escaped the duties a husband and father was supposed to acknowledge. She had told her that her father had been nice, and caring, but not mature enough to take care of them. It was all lies, but she needed a story to tell her. She couldn't tell her the truth; she had to push it away as long as possible. She had decided that, years ago, when she learned the truth, she wouldn't tell her until it was crucial, and it became a matter of life or death. Well, she could no longer procrastinate.

Wiping away the tears with the back of her hand and giving an involuntary sniff, she pulled into the rocky driveway. As she shut the door of the house behind her, Bethany ran up the stairs and went into her bedroom.

It was a comfortable room, decorated in warm shades of gold and maroon. She walked to the closet and took a shuddering breath, then stepped inside. It was pitch black in there, and she moved her hand around the wall. When she found it, she pressed the light switch, and a single light bulb illuminated the space with yellow light. At the far end, there was a rod covered with hangars holding tons of clothing. She pushed the clothing to one side with effort and looked down at the black safe. She had hidden it there, because there was no way Paris would even think about looking there. Her breathing became shallower and she could feel a horrible shiver run up and down her spine. She looked down at her arms and saw gooseflesh.

The headaches had been getting worse. Paris had even noticed that Bethany seemed to be more tired nowadays. Usually, she was filled with happiness. Her body ran on energy. The visions in her sleep had sucked all that away like a vacuum. Last night, she had seen the worst one so far. She knew it was going to get worse, until Paris' birthday, but it still terrified her.

She had been running on a dark and damp street with no light. Just a flickering street lamp illuminated her way. Her feet had been bare, and the sharp rocks had given the soles of her feet gashes and cuts. But she didn't dare stop running. If she did, it would catch her, and she wouldn't wake up from her slumber. While she was running, she could feel her heart pounding in her chest and head in a hammering manner. She could feel the sweat wetting her hair and skin. Then, she heard the voice.

It wasn't like any other voice she heard before. It was inhuman, and it immediately struck shock, terror and fear into her heart. It wasn't the kind of fear you get from watching horror movies, it's the kind of fear you don't get after childhood. It's ghost fear. And when you feel it, you know that every hair on your body will rise up with gooseflesh.

The thing said in a whisper, "Bethany, you can't run anymore. I'm going to catch you, and then I'm going to catch her, just like I caught him. Two weeks is not a lot of time, you know." Bethany had felt the tears racing down her face savagely, but she could not say anything. Then, she had awoken with a start. She was crying, and shaking convulsively, and her skin was pale and clammy. She had wept silently throughout the night, afraid to go back to sleep. She knew right away, that she had to tell Paris. When dawn made its way through the night, she forgot about telling her. And when Paris had gotten out of the car in front of the school, she knew it wasn't the right time, yet, in the very core of her heart, she knew she was just afraid of saying anything, of ruining the innocent girl's life forever.

Well, she's just going to have to accept it, isn't she? A male voice inside her head said. Not unless I can help her. Bethany replied to it. You can't help her. It's her destiny and hers alone. You will do nothing to interfere, just prepare her. And prepare her well. There was no doubting the tone of finality in that voice.

Bethany inhaled a sharp breath. That voice had been in her head for a long time, she couldn't even put her finger on the day that she started hearing it in her head. It was Aegeus' voice. It was Paris' father's voice... Every time she heard it, she cried. Even if she didn't want it, tears always shed and painful, wracking sobs are wrenched from her throat. She didn't know why he was haunting her this way. She didn't know why he wouldn't leave her alone. The truth is, she did want him by her side, but she didn't want his voice, she wanted his physical form. His voice just would not satisfy her. She needed more, a supporting arm around her, a shoulder to cry on. She hadn't specified that when he had had that last conversation with her. How could she, when there were so many more important things to talk about?

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The Unmaking Of An Athlete

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I sometimes wonder if there are any prerequisites at all to getting a job as a college strength and conditioning coach. As the owner of my private athletic training company I have had the opportunity to work with athletes from numerous colleges and universities across the country and have witnessed their disgust with their schools strength and conditioning programs. Some athletes, such as those attending Arizona State, are fortunate enough to have outstanding strength coaches and tremendous programs that they need not look elsewhere for help. Others are not so lucky. Every August I try to send my athletes back to their respective schools as one of the strongest, fastest, and most well conditioned players on their team. Come December I see the unlucky one's come back to me weaker, smaller and slower. These athletes have the misfortune of training under some Neanderthal strength coach who hasn't learned anything new about weight training since the release of Pumping Iron. There have been countless advances in the field of strength and conditioning over the last ten years, yet very few people seem to take advantage of them. It is inexcusable that in 2004, a college strength and conditioning coach does not have a thorough knowledge of exercise and nutrition and can not properly prepare their teams for competition. If your athletes are losing size and strength, slowing down, and becoming more injury prone I think it's time to go back to the drawing board.

The Unmaking Of An Athlete

Every college athlete that hires me as their strength coach brings me their schools workout to look at before we get started. Some of the things I see in those programs are absolutely unfathomable.

One such example of the insanity is the baseball player I train whose school conditioning program includes running three miles through the city of Philadelphia ala Rocky Balboa every morning at 6am before lifting. Long distance running is useless for nearly every sport, especially baseball. Baseball players will normally run no more than 90 feet at any one particular time. That 90 foot sprint usually comes only once every half hour or so and only if the player gets a hit. So how, I ask, does running three miles each morning improve your ability to play the game of baseball? The only player on the field who needs real endurance is the pitcher. A well known strength coach once told me that if a baseball player can play PlayStation in the locker room, without getting winded, he is aerobically fit enough for the game. Baseball is a game of skill and hand-eye coordination and the players need size, strength and speed. The major leagues are filled with pumped up monsters that hit 500 foot home runs and can bench press a car, yet many college coaches continue to run their players into the ground. Endless distance running will only cause the athletes to lose size, strength and most importantly...games. To get a few more wins this season, ditch the counterproductive marathon training and get your baseball players doing sprints and lifting heavy weights.

Another one of my athletes is a Division 1 field hockey player whose conditioning test on the first day of camp consists of running from New York to Los Angeles and back in under an hour. I am, of course, exaggerating but not by much. The test involves more running in one morning than the girls will run in a seasons worth of games. Field hockey players must be highly conditioned, no doubt, but the best way to achieve that high level of conditioning is not through an outdated approach of long distance running. Coaches who implement this kind of training are preparing their athletes for a marathon, not a stop and go sport such as field hockey. While the athlete's may be able to run a faster time in the mile, the question is, how does that equate to better performance on the field? The answer is obvious, it doesn't. There is no sport that consists of running miles at a time. Most sports involve a combination of sprinting, jogging and even walking. Field hockey is no different and as such, these athletes would be best served to do a mix of interval sprint training and longer 200-400 meter sprints. A colleague of mine who works with several NHL players, arguably the most highly conditioned of all athletes, has found that 400 meter sprints performed three times weekly works wonders for conditioning while avoiding muscle and strength losses.

I once trained a football player whose team workout consisted of no work for the lower back or hamstrings, the most important muscles for sprint speed. I have another athlete whose school training program is 100% machine based. One of my standout football players, who I began training in eighth grade lost nearly forty pounds in his first year at college because the team workout consisted of full body circuit training of 15-20 reps with 30 seconds rest, three days a week, year round! There must have been some strong guys in that lineup. Another amazing training program was the one that had EVERY kid on the team do the exact same weight regardless of bodyweight, strength level or position! The reasoning behind it was they had 50 kids to train and didn't have time to change the weights.

To those with a good deal of strength training knowledge the above stories may sound like fiction. But trust me they are all true, you can't make that kind of stuff up. Unfortunately, I have dozens more and could go on forever with similar stories. There are endless mistakes made by strength coaches and head coaches on a daily basis but here are some of the biggest ones and some ways to improve upon them:

1) Excessive endurance training- Nearly every athlete I work with gets run into the ground on a daily basis. This is counterproductive and is usually done because the coaches don't have the necessary understanding of the body's different energy systems and how to train them properly. Most sports require speed. Speed can only be improved through proper training of the nervous system and by avoiding excessive endurance work. Too much distance work can convert fast twitch muscle fibers into slow twitch fibers and can actually decrease an athlete's speed over time. Unfortunately I've seen this happen more times than I care to remember and have watched great athletes have their careers ruined by improper training techniques. If coaches kept in mind the requirements of the sport they are preparing their athletes for, maybe this would not be such a problem. For example, in training an offensive lineman, why would you ever have him run miles at a time or sprint more than ten to twenty yards in practice when you know that he will never run that distance in a game? Unless I am missing something, the point of practice is to get ready for what you will do in a game. The problem, much of the time lies in the fact that head coaches dictate how their team's running is implemented. Most of the time a head coach does not have a degree in anatomy or physiology or even a general understanding of either. The head coach is required to know the sport inside and out but is rarely an expert in energy system training. If head coaches could check their egos and let a qualified speed and conditioning coach handle this aspect of training they just might add a few more victories to their record.

2) Overtraining- Most coaches have an old school military attitude of "more is better," and usually end up overtraining their athletes. Spending more than an hour in the weight room is a classic mistake. Performing extra sprints at the end of practice as a form or punishment is another one. By forcing the athletes to run in such a fatigued state, you increase their risk of injury and teach them to adopt improper sprint technique. This combined with three-a-day practices, limited rest times, insufficient nutrition and hydration all leads to a severe state of overtraining.

3) Improper sprint training- Anyone who understands how the body works knows that to improve speed you must target the central nervous system (CNS). Proper neural training requires the appropriate amount of recovery time between sprints. The CNS takes five to six times longer than the muscles to recover, a fact which seem to escape most coaches. Running ten forty yard sprints with a fifteen second rest is not speed training, it is time wasting and nauseating. The frequency of high intensity speed training is also too great. Most athletes are forced to perform maximal sprints every day of the week. The great Olympic sprint coach, Charlie Francis, has his athletes perform no more than two max effort sprint days per week and finds anything more than that to be detrimental in speed development.

4) Too many reps in the weight room- Most of the college weight training programs I see focus on sets of 10-15 reps, even for Olympic lifts. Any strength coach who has yet to learn that Olympic lifts are never to be performed for more than six reps should not be working at the college level. Where is the strength work in these programs? With all of the other endurance work the kids are doing the last thing you want to do is turn the time in the weight room into another endurance session. Focus on strength and speed which is best accomplished by using multiple sets of 1-6 reps and heavy weight.

5) Using the wrong exercises- Tricep kickbacks, leg extensions, and pec deck flyes are all exercises that I have actually seen in the programs of Division 1 schools. These exercises are completely useless for any athlete. Strength is built using basic compound movements and heavy weight. Focus on .
Another mistake is taking kids who have little to no training experience and having them do power cleans or some other complex lift. By the time most male athletes reach college they have done a decent amount of weight training but that is not usually the case for females. I have heard of schools taking freshman girls and throwing them right into a workout consisting of snatches and split jerks. Just because a girl may be superstar Division 1 athlete does not mean she is ready to start doing Olympic complexes. Beginners should always train like beginners regardless of the situation.

6) Improper exercise form- Even if you utilize the proper rep scheme, and train heavy on the compound exercises listed above it is all a waste if your exercise form is horrendous. In the college weight rooms I've been in, I've seen people bench press with their asses a foot and a half off the bench and have seen more varieties of a hang clean than I ever knew existed. As a strength coach it is your job, above all else, to at least be able to teach your athletes proper exercise form and help them avoid injury.

7) Doing conditioning work before weight training- The point of lifting weights is to get stronger. To do so you should be as fresh as possible upon entering the weight room so you can train at your maximal capacity. Running and doing conditioning drills immediately before lifting drains your glycogen stores and saps your energy, leaving you weak and unmotivated, not exactly the way you want to feel before a heavy workout. Completing an exhausting two hour practice and then going straight to the weight room for some heavy squats is also a great way to get injured.

8) Training the whole team with the same workout- You would be amazed at how many schools use the exact same workout for every player on the team regardless of position, training experience or strength level. When it really gets to be appalling is when the weights to be used on a certain exercise are already written in ahead of time. Some workout sheets will say something like: Bench Press- 3 sets x 10 reps x 225 pounds. So the 150 pound kicker who has never lifted before and the 375 pound nose tackle who has spent his life in the gym are supposed to do the same exact weight. It will staple one of them to the bench and be a joke for the other; even a first grader could tell you that. This is one glaring mistake I will never understand.

9) Never changing the workout- Too many schools use the same workout month after month and year after year. They have an in season program and an off season program and the workouts NEVER change. Every year, for a good laugh, a Division 1 baseball player I train brings me his teams' workout book at the start of the season. For four years straight, it was the exact same three-day-a-week workout, fifty two weeks a year! Talk about boredom and burn out. I would go absolutely insane if I did the same workout for more than a few weeks straight, never mind four years. If you are getting paid to write workouts for a team, the least you could do is put a little thought into them and add some variety.

10) Constant negativity- After many years working as a strength and conditioning coach I know that most athletes do not respond well to constantly being verbally berated. It is, of course, part of the job, you have to toughen the kids up and earn their respect. But when they hate you and no longer enjoy coming to practice or the weight room, you have ruined what should have been a great experience for them and you have just lowered the performance output of your athletes. I appreciate a hardcore, militant attitude and train most of my athletes in this manner. However we do have fun and lighten up when the work is done. At the end of the day, everyone needs positive reinforcement once in a while or they will just give up or lose interest, it's human nature, look into it.

The intention of this article was not to bash all college strength coaches and head coaches, because, as I stated earlier there are many great ones. It was simply a way of trying to get through to those that have been stuck in their outdated ways for far too long. Hopefully it opened some eyes and will cause at least a few people to take a step back and rethink their strength and conditioning programs. Properly trained athletes win more games, which as a coach, is always your goal. More importantly, when an 18 year old kid puts his or her athletic future in your hands, it is not a responsibility to be taken lightly. The training you give them over the next four years could literally make or break their careers and shape the rest of their lives. Think about that before heading for the copy machine to rehash the same useless workouts you've been using forever

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Fitness Program by P90X - Certainly a Viable Option For You

Fitness Program by P90X - Certainly a Viable Option For You Insane Muscle Girls :

Having a good body is a dream of almost every youngster. Every individual wants to achieve six pack and eight pack abs! A good body definitely attracts a lot of people. I would like to tell you that fitness is not only growing amongst the boys but the girls too. So, if you are looking for a great fitness program then you must read this article carefully. Further in this article we are going to talk about P90X fitness program in detail. It is definitely a great tool for keeping fit and healthy.

Fitness Program by P90X - Certainly a Viable Option For You

Now, listed below are some of the essential things regarding P90X fitness program. These things would give you a detailed explanation regarding this system.

1. P90x
Well, I must tell you that it is a complete body training plan that works out on some of the most important muscles of your body. Some of these body muscles are: arms, legs, chest, and back muscles. You need to work out on this program for about 90 days. Make sure you work out with complete dedication.

2. 10 Minute Trainer for you
This is a great fitness program that should be exercised for 10 minutes everyday. It is a complete fitness program that is pretty good for those individuals who are not able to exercise for a longer duration of time. Some of the best exercises coming under this program are: abs move, complete-body sculpting and fat-burning cardio. You can certainly opt for this program if you want to save your time.

3. Power 90 Boot camp
If you want some good fat burning and body sculpting then you got to purchase this health program. It is basically for 90 days. The target areas of this program include: your upper half of the body, thigh muscles and abs. It is the best option for people who want to lose weight quickly.

4. Insanity
Well, it is a great two month fitness program for all the individuals who want to achieve a good physique. I would like to inform you before hand that this program is going to include some serious exercise sessions. So, you need to maintain your fitness level while working out.

So, we can conclude that the P90X fitness program offers you just about every thing. You just need to try these products. So, this was all about fitness program in detail. Make sure you read this article properly. Have fun and enjoy yourself!

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Tip on Losing Weight - 7 "Secret" Rapid Fatloss Tips That You Would Pay To know!

Tip on Losing Weight - 7 "Secret" Rapid Fatloss Tips That You Would Pay To know! Insane Muscle Girls :

There are a lot of tips out there that help you lose weight but only a few of them will actually make you a fat burning machine 24/7. You see, the idea here is to keep burning the fat off even when you leave the gym. Whether you are in the office working, at home watching tv, or sleeping, you can burn fat!

Tip on Losing Weight - 7 "Secret" Rapid Fatloss Tips That You Would Pay To know!

The theory behind it is maximizing your body's metabolism. Having a higher metabolism throughout the day will make your body burn more energy 24/7. When this happens, it becomes easier for you to create that deficit between the calories you burn during the day and the calories that you eat.

When you increase your metabolism while maintaining the number of calories you eat, you create a calorie deficit that is conducive to lose weight!

Here are 7 tips that will help you become a lean fat burning machine! Using a tip on losing weight a day into your daily life will help build that body you want in no time.

1. Commitment

Okay, this is the most underestimated tip in your arsenal. You can have all the programs, all the pills, all the supplements that promise you that flat stomach or 6-pack abs and still you can look like a slob because you tried the program for 3 months, saw some progress, called yourself "boy/girl fatloss" and started binging again in front of your TV. Commitment to the program and to your ideal body is very important. Unless you are truly committed to the goal at hand, you will never get anywhere near that 6 pack or flat stomach.

2. Be ready to make a sacrifice

Simply put, if you're not willing to pay the price: working out, eating the right food, etc. You will not make the cut and say goodbye to your fatloss hopes and dreams.

3. Do HIIT Cardio!

This cardio program is modelled after a sprinter's training program. Have you ever seen a sprinter without a flat stomach or a 6 pack? You can also see that they are significantly more muscular and better looking than their marathon runner counterparts? This is so because HIIT cardio spikes up the body's metabolism into INSANE levels without eating a lot of energy that can reduce your muscle gains. There are a lot of versions of HIIT Cardio but the one I use personally is this.

Sprint - 30 seconds - Rest 30 seconds

Do that for 4 minutes on your first 3 sessions and try to add a minute each session until you reach 12.

Let me warn you: if this is your first time to do this you can last 4 minutes and didn't break a sweat then you're probably doing it wrong. When I say sprint, you go all out until you "shake like a leaf". Up the INTENSITY.

This program alone will turn your body into a fat burning furnace!

4. Make sure to eat and eat well!

You know, fat loss doesn't have to equate to starving. If you starve, the more chances you binge in the long run. Do not deplete yourself of energy!!! But don't eat too much either. Maintain the balance, eat 6 times a day of clean food (no Mcdonalds, etc.)

5. Keep yourself Hydrated

What does water have to do with burning fat? EVERYTHING. Almost every process in the body involves water. When you don't hydrate yourself properly, metabolic processes in your body SLOW DOWN. This is bad news for you if you're trying to burn fat!!!

6. Eat a lot of Greens!

Fiber rich foods not only clean your digestive tract but they also are more dense in the stomach. You satiate more quickly when you include a lot of greens/salads in your diet. When you do this, you reduce your chances of binging on junk food and the like!

7. Treat yourself!

These tips put a lot of strain to your body. Don't forget to treat yourself from time to time. Buy yourself a new shirt, shoes, or ice cream! (just don't do it often) It will be easier for you to be committed to your goal if you reward yourself from time to time. Remember your Psychology101, positive-reinforcement!

So there they are your 7 tips to fitness! Hope you find them useful!

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Making Love for a Lifetime: Seniors and Sexuality

Making Love for a Lifetime: Seniors and Sexuality Insane Muscle Girls :

We are sexual beings, throughout the lifespan. This includes the later years of life, which are often overlooked in discussions of sexuality. In this article I want to address some misconceptions about aging and sexuality; report some survey information on sexual behavior among seniors; describe physical, psychological and medical changes that may accompany aging; and suggest positive and affirming ways for seniors to continue to enjoy their sexuality to the fullest.

Making Love for a Lifetime: Seniors and Sexuality

I. Some Myths about Aging and Sexuality

Many cultural "truths" convey the message that sexuality is for
the young. If seniors are interested in sex there is something wrong with that. How many of the following myths and stereotypes have you heard?

- Older people don't have sex, don't want sex, don't think about sex.

- It's perverted for an older person to have sexual thoughts; perhaps he is a "dirty old man".

- Women don't want sex, aren't interested in sex, and are only going along with what men want.

- When you get "old", you can't have sex.

- Sex is for younger adults. (I saw a cross-stitched sampler once which said "Kissing don't last - cooking do".)

- If you can't have sex like a porn star, you have no business trying it at all.

These are all misleading and incorrect stereotypes. It is
important to recognize that sexuality is a central part of healthy living - all our lives!

II. Survey Information: What's Happening Out There?

Three recent national surveys of older Americans have focused on
sexuality and sexual behavior. "Healthy Sexuality and Vital
Aging" (1998) was funded by Pfizer and sponsored by the National
Council on the Aging (NCOA) and surveyed over 1300 people. The
American Association of Retired Persons (AARP) sponsored national surveys in 1999 and again in 2004. "Sexuality at Midlife and Beyond" looked at a nationally representative group of 1700 adults aged 45 and older.

The NCOA survey found that almost half of seniors over sixty are
sexually active; 39% want sex more often. The majority of
respondents reported having sex less often now than when they
were in their forties - 82% of men and 63% of women.

61% of men and 62% of women find sex equal to or more physically
satisfying than it was in their forties. With regard to
emotional satisfaction, 76% of men and 69% of women found sex to
be at least as emotionally satisfying as in their forties.

72% of men and 47% of women consider sex important to their
relationship with their partner. Men, however, were more than
twice as likely as women to report wanting sex more frequently.
This was true in all age segments - even in men 80 and older.

The AARP study found that the proportion of men who've tried
potency-enhancing medicines, hormones, or other treatments has
doubled since 1999. The majority (68%) report the treatments
have increased their sexual satisfaction. Their wives also
reported increased pleasure for themselves.

63% of men and women with partners described themselves as either extremely satisfied or somewhat satisfied with their sex lives. 51% of men and women surveyed reported having sexual thoughts, fantasies, or erotic dreams at least once a week.

50% of women in the 45-49 age range reported that they
masturbate; 20% of women 70 and older said they masturbated. A
majority of all women - even those 70-plus - told AARP that self- stimulation is an important part of sexual pleasure at any age.

Both these surveys, based on scientifically randomized samples,
indicate that seniors are having sex, thinking about sex,
enjoying sex - and taking steps to increase their enjoyment and
pleasure. Clearly sexuality is important to older Americans,
contrary to popular stereotypes!

III. Natural Changes Occurring With Aging

Most of us reading this are not twenty years old any more! Our
bodies are constantly changing - though many of us are in denial. Orthopedic medicine is one of the fastest-growing medical specialities, treating rotator cuff injuries, tennis elbow, injured backs, torn cartilage, blown ACLs - in aging baby
boomers. We're not ready to give it up!

Your body changes as you age, and these changes can affect your
sexual relationships.

A. Physical Changes

Testosterone regulates your sex drive whether you're a man or a
woman. Most aging men and women produce enough testosterone to
maintain their interest in sex, though patches and creams can
provide an alternative source of the hormone to boost desire if
needed.

Men and women experience different changes in their bodies as
they age.

-- Women --

Most physical changes are linked to menopause and reduced
estrogen levels. As you age, it takes longer for your vagina to
swell and lubricate when you're sexually aroused. Your vagina
also loses some elasticity. Together these can make intercourse
less comfortable or even painful.

What to do:

- Longer foreplay increases natural lubrication.

- Use water-based lubricants, such as Astroglide, Probe or Silk.

- Estrogen creams or hormone replacement therapy can rejuvenate vaginal tissue.

- Regular intercourse helps maintain lubrication and elasticity.

- Do Kegel exercises to keep the pelvic floor muscles toned.

- If you haven't had intercourse for a while, realize it takes time to stretch out - go slowly!

- Minimize any pain or discomfort. Desire usually returns once any discomfort is relieved.

-- Men --

As you age, it might take longer to achieve an erection; it may
be less firm and it may not last as long. Aging also increases
the time between possible ejaculations.

What to do:

- Relax, stop worrying about it! Anxiety makes it worse.

- Let go of performance expectations. American media is filled with messages implying that masculinity and virility is equated with youthful performance.

- Kegel exercises are very helpful for men also, to tone the pelvic floor musculature.

- Take longer with sexual activities. You may also need more direct physical stimulation.

- Try different positions, for comfort and extra stimulation.

- Focus on pleasurable sensations, rather than on hurrying towards orgasm and ejaculation.

- Viagra, Cialis or Levitra may help intensify erections.

- Other medical devices, such as pumps, drugs and implants have been developed. I would encourage a natural and relaxed exploration of sexual possibilities before submitting to an expensive and invasive medical procedure.

Intercourse is Not the Only Way to Have Sex!

Helen Gurley Brown, author of Sex and the Single Girl, has said,
"When people say they can't have sex because they have a bad
back, or arthritis, or all of the things that can affect our
bodies as we get older, I think what they're really saying is
they're looking for an excuse not to have sex. When you care,
you find that there are all sorts of ways to express sensuality."

Sexual ignorance, cultural values and media images combine to
"sell" the story that sex = intercourse - and having an orgasm is the way to tell if you're accomplishing anything!

This mindset gets everything backwards. The purpose of having
huge concentrations of nerve endings and pleasure receptors in
our genitals is to experience pleasure. While orgasms are
wonderful, when sex becomes goal-driven to "achieve" climax, it
short-changes both partners' pleasure and places enormous
performance expectations and demands - which can turn sex from
playful, spontaneous, pleasurable sensual intimacy between two
people who care about each other into something like a chore.

I highly recommend Marty Klein's book Let Me Count the Ways:
Great Sex Without Intercourse as an excellent guide and
encouragement in your creativity. (For more information about
Marty Klien's book look on:
http://www.books4selfhelp.com/sexuality.htm )

Passionate kissing, oral sex, mutual masturbation, telling erotic stories to each other, massage, hugging, touching, cuddling -- all of this can be great sex!

What is most important is pleasure - giving and receiving
physical and emotional pleasure. We are all hungry to be
touched. We need touch. Without touch, babies do not thrive,
and may even die. Grownups need to be touched too. (If you're
reading this and do not have a partner in your life, remember
that self-pleasure can be a very important aspect of self-care
and nurture. It is always possible to choose pleasure for
oneself!)

B. Psychological Changes

The aging process may have psychological and emotional effects -
particularly as we live in a culture that glorifies youth and
extols youthfulness as the epitome of physical beauty. (I would
remind us all that this is market-driven: marketers learned long
ago that younger people are more likely to spend disposable
income, and are more influenceable by advertising.)

- We may be embarrassed or ashamed of our sexual needs as an older adult.

What to do: Get over it! Join the party. You deserve pleasure in your life, from birth until the day you die.

- Changes in appearance affect how we feel about ourselves. Bodies no longer match the idealized body images we see in advertising and the media.

What to do: Realize that media has created the youthful ideal of beauty. Celebrate and love the body you have! Every wrinkle, stretch mark, gray hair, rounded contour, ache and pain is a mark of your ever-increasing maturity and wisdom! Bette Midler once said that if you are a woman and consider yourself unattractive -- visit another culture for a wake-up call. American stereothypes of physical attractiveness are insane dreams invented by marketers who are playing on our anxieties and insecurities in order to sell us more products.

- Worrying about sexual performance may actually reduce the body's ability to perform sexually; men may experience erectile dysfunction, women an inability to lubricate.

What to do: Relax! Relax... Enjoy your partner. Look into his or her eyes. Breathe together. Cuddle, stroke, gently massage each other. Sexuality is about pleasure, playfulness, and spontaneity.

- Depression may reduce energy, optimism and desire.

What to do: Exercise, do pleasurable activities, get sun on your face every day. Talk with your doctor about an antidepressant medication. See a therapist. Talk with your friends. Write your feelings in a journal. Any positive action taken - even drinking a glass of water! - is a step towards moving out of depression.

C. Changes Due to Medications and Surgery

Chronic pain or surgery and illness that cause fatigue can make
sexual activities more challenging or painful.

What to do: Talk about it. Slow down, focus on simple pleasureable activities. Experiment with different positions or activities to discover what is most pleasureful.

Some commonly used medications can interfere with sexual
function. High blood pressure medications can reduce desire and
impair erection in men and lubrication in women. Some
antihistamines, antidepressants and acid-blocking drugs can have side effects that affect sexual function.

What to do: Talk with your doctor about how to minimize these effects. It may be possible to substitute alternative medications that work as well as the original, but without affecting sexual function.

IV. Improving Sex as You Age

David Schnarch, in his book Passionate Marriage emphasizes that
people become better lovers as they age. This runs counter to
cultural stereotypes which hold that sex is for the young. Older persons have learned a few things over time, and no longer
struggle with youthful anxieties and ignorance about sexuality.
(For more information about David Schnarch's book, look on:
http://www.books4selfhelp.com/intimate-relationships.htm )

With age and maturity, it is more possible to slow down and
deeply experience all the pleasure that sensual sexuality has to
offer. It is possible to learn how to combine deep relaxation
with high states of arousal in order to have more intense,
longer-lasting sexual experiences.

- Expand your definition of sex. Sex is more than intercourse!

- Communicate with your partner. Talk about what you need and what you like. Discuss the changes you're going through. Ask your partner about his or her needs and how to be accommodating. Communication itself can be arousing!

- Make changes to your routine. Change the time of day in which you have sexual activity. Mornings or afternoons may be better than at night when you are tired or achy. Take more time to set the stage for romance: romantic dinners or an evening of dancing or a special time or place for lovemaking. Try a new sexual position.

- Manage your expectations. If you didn't have sex very often as a younger adult, don't expect to have lots of sex as an older adult. Partners who enjoy frequent sex when they are younger are more likely to continue that as they age.

- Take care of yourself. Eat a healthy diet and exercise regularly, at least 30 minutes a day. Avoid alcohol as it decreases sexual function in both men and women. Do your Kegel exercises every day.

- Practice safe sex. If you have a new partner, get tested. Use condoms. People over 50 make up about 10% of AIDS cases in the United States

Most of all, simply enjoy the pleasureful sensations which your
body is amply equipped to experience. Take time to nurture your
relationship with your partner so that you are feeling
emotionally connected. Approach your sexual relationship with
playfulness, humor, patience and love.

Sexual pleasure is part of the birthright of being human - and it is a lifelong resource for joy, health and personal growth.

For further resources on Seniors and Sexuality - books, magazine
articles, films and Internet resources - see my Resource page at
http://www.DavidYarian.com/resources.htm.

More resources are listed in The Guide to Self-Help Books,
http://www.Books4SelfHelp.com. Relevant sections of the Guide
include Sexuality, Men's Sexual Health, Women's Sexual Health,
Intimate Relationships, Gay and Lesbian Concerns and Tantra.

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Provoking The Provacative

Provoking The Provacative Insane Muscle Girls :

His finger trailed lazily down her neck making simple, slow circles that sizzled first, then tingled. But then swirled back up and under the curve of her jaw, lingering there but destined for the delicate maze of her ear.

Provoking The Provacative

Almost gracefully, that finger trailed downward caressing the tender flesh there and meandering again around the delicate curve of her jaw.

She shivered, feeling that slick silver shot of adrenaline move through her body and with it the need began its climb upward to her brain.

Continuing its travels his nails breached the maze of her ear and traced the skin there exacting some small insanity that joined that silver adrenaline "drug" in her body and made the warm spread lower.

Her moan was low and enduring for only a moment as he turned her toward him.

"Yes..." she growled, low, excited. The basque she so carefully chose, was working... she felt it.
Slowly he ran his tongue along the top of it skimming her cleavage as he played with the petite rose ribbon that wove through the lace there...

"Mmmm" was her only utterance, "Yes, more there"

Her hands moved up his back exploring the tight molded muscles with nails that sought to know, not hurt..... yet.

The ribbons pulled apart from the stays and hung dangling as his fingers pushed and explored the valley that beckoned him on.

Her leg moved over his own.

Thank God, she thought for NiceAndNaughty.net.... yes.

And so this is scene we turn over in our minds as we pick lingerie. What do you want to do with it? Is lounging about on your own the immediate goal? Or do fancy yourself being made love to by the man of your dreams? Could it be your husband.... Or someone else? Whatever the case it's important to know how to provoke and how to be provocative.

Hmmmm...innately we are attracted and respond to sometimes a vague idea of what we want, what we expect from the purchase of a particular item. Does it do what we want it to do? Is is sexy? (Of course it is).

Men respond to different aspects of a woman's personality and body. Most men have a particular "part" of the female anatomy they want to explore and enjoy... Is your guy a breast man? Well, there's lots of stuff out there to peek his interest... remember, bare exposure isn't everything. Seduction is. Variety is. "Cover ups or transparent materials" provoke interest, they make a man want to know more, even though he already has a darn good idea of what's there. He needs some healthy curiousity.

Same goes for your posterior girls. If you have a great shape... have at it, anything from thongs to boy shorts goes. But if the package isn't wrapped properly or isn't interesting... he'll let you know in a heart beat. Big girls... there's plenty out there for you in plus sizes.

Then you've got the "lip-lovers".... Wow... what a variety of enhancements on the open market to get some attention here. Even Walmart has a blistering array of lip gloss, plump and sparkle. Just go do it and reap the rewards.

The best seduction scenes are written in our contemporary romance writer's books. Nora Roberts sex scenes sizzle, read a few of her books and see if you wouldn't want to be treated the way some of those heroines get treated.... Cheez. It never hurts to take hints from the professionals and if the books turn you on, set the scenes you'd like to live, if possible or failing that, read a few hot scenes with your guy and see what happens.

Being provocative is an art. Some learn it young and yet some of the most sexy women in their 60's and 70's are masters at the art of seductiveness. (Yep, many of them had plenty of staged movie experience, but they learned from the best.) Those of us that are in their older years don't have to look at themselves as sexless beings that have just done their best to raise their kids.... These ladies have the knowledge too. Why not enhance that now that those kids are out of the nest?

Whatever your age, seduction is an art, let's use every conceivable nuance to get the attention we want. Creativity starts at home.

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